Next programme: 28th May – 2nd June 2017
“We are one generation away from Heaven on Earth … We need to raise a new generation of human beings who are not disconnected, who are not traumatised.” Elena Tonetti-Vladimirova, 2013 (Birth Into Being)
“Support for parents must be the cornerstone of any community that wants to preserve and increase human potential” Patty Wipfler, 2016 (Parenting by Connection)
“Grow the Grown Ups” is a unique week on our beautiful land for adults with young children to participate in a facilitated twin trail programme with their families.
On this programme, parenting is the focus and stimulus for both the outer and the inner trails.
Parenting is an opportunity for effective realistic direct action towards creating the world of our longing. The challenges, which inevitably come up in the journey of parenthood, point to areas ripe for the parents’ inner growth.
We take the perspective that parenting is an honour, a privilege, and at the same time a challenge, and an invitation to grow.
Having dependent children is an intense experience: we’re in relationship 24/7 with someone who needs us, initially for their survival. Not only that, but as they grow, they need to define themselves and – to some degree – gradually leave us behind.
Aspects of us that have not yet matured, where we are not ready or don’t know how to be responsible, practically or emotionally, will show up in us in the relentlessness of being there for our child, often un-thanked. We will find ourselves triggered by our children’s immature behaviours, and despite our best efforts to parent consciously we will most likely hear ourselves repeating unhelpful actions and phrases that adults around us used when we were children.
Children are very accurate mirrors. Even those of us who are not in any kind of parenting crisis can benefit from support to understand how to navigate family life – how to find the balance between everyone’s needs, and how to skillfully grow up our residual immature parts and mature as adults, so that we can parent our children from a wise responsible adult place. When we are reactive towards our children, there is always something for us to face in ourselves.
This is brave and courageous work and the rewards are rich.
“Grow the Grown Ups” gives parents practical and emotional support to do this brave work. We take away the daily tasks of shopping, cooking, driving, entertaining, earning, emailing etc for a week so that parents can give themselves, each other and their children some quality attention in a simple, natural environment.
Book Your Place
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If you have any questions or difficulties with your booking please call us on +44 (0) 1647 252 983
What to Expect
Each morning simple activities (gardening, crafts, music) are shared, in small family groups, with others. Each afternoon adults come together while children have a great time (with our Creche and Play Teams nearby), to discuss, listen, learn, share and re-focus on what really matters.
We do not tell you how to parent your child: we see this very much as your lifestyle choice. We draw on the Parenting by Connection model, and introduce and practise 2 of the tools during the week: Special Time and Listening Partnerships. For more information about these, please follow this link http://www.handinhandparenting.org
The proverb works both ways: “It takes a village to raise a child.” And “It takes a child to raise a village”
Children who are raised with consciousness and love, who are allowed their feelings and thoughts, who are given helpful loving limits and guidance in how to socialise, are a resource to our communities. They trust their intuition and their hearts as well as their minds. They expect to love and be loved. They intuitively know when something is out of integrity. These children will be ready to step up as our next leaders to steer our world back on track where it has become imbalanced.
When we are able to witness a child’s natural confidence of being, and listen to the unlimited thinking of their mind, when we can open ourselves to share their moments of delight in simple things, and to hear their emotional pain when hearts close, adults can be touched, restored and brought back into alignment with our essential trusting, creative nature.
Programme Director and Lead Facilitator – Joanna Watters
Staff Team Leader – Tim Hall
Host Leader – Fiona Barnes
Creche Leader – Helen Bourne
Play Team Leader – Stephan Pfaff
Craft Leader – Miriam Rose
Moving Sound Leader – Christoffer de Graal
Parenting by Connection Advisor – Anna Cole
Plus staff and volunteers from Embercombe.
Photo on postcard courtesy of Rachel Mowitz
Read what previous participants had to say:
When I read about it I couldn’t quite believe it was being held in the UK. I thought it must be in the States as it sounded too good to be true. There were so many aspects that drew both my partner and me to it: the rich nature of the work being offered, having time without the kids to be able to really focus on our parenting journey, staying in a yurt, being cooked for all week, the kids being able to romp and roam on the land…. Fundamentally for me it was having an opportunity to connect and work with others drawn to this parenting approach, as prior to this I’d felt I was treading a lone road. My expectations were exceeded by the wealth of engagement from the other parents attending and it felt a great privilege to work together with them.
Embercombe feels a very grounded place. I have visited many communities since the 80s and it stands out as sane, healthy, fun and inspiring. I had the impression it was also open to new ideas and endlessly growing, rather than getting too stuck in one groove.
Thank you so much beautiful people. I blogged about my experience of the camp but in a sentence: This week has bolstered my heart with the embodiment of receiving such deep, loving, non judgemental support for both children and parents and has provided and inspirational vision of the possibility of creating a world where parents receive the support they need.
Thanks again for an amazing, insightful few days
Thank you for the wonderful week on Grow the Grown Ups. We all had a rich, meaningful and inspiring time. We’ve all come back a bit changed for the better and that’s something we’re managing so far to bring to, and hold on to, in all the different areas of our life. High-lights:
- The incredible supportive atmosphere on the whole of the site. It felt like everyone – Embercombe volunteers, camp volunteers and leaders and the land itself – was there with love and was cradling our family. That was humbling and precious.
- Time and space to be together as adults, with the kids looked after with such love. Support and encouragement to just be with our kids. The joy of seeing them as people.
- The afternoom by the pizza oven. I am filled up just thinking of the wonderful setting, the sense of community, the care from everyone involved and fun of the time.
We loved all of it! The children loved their time in the woods in the afternoon, we loved the options of the rhythms of Embercombe, the games, the stories, the songs, etc! Food was delicious – loved the freshness of it all.
Thank you so so much for an extraordinary 5 days. I can’t really find the words to explain what has shifted in our family but it’s huge and so full of love and insight. Many many thanks and deep gratitude for the work you are doing to support all of us to step into the next paradigm . These are extraordinary times and it feels like we are pioneers. I feel a deep well of gratitude at my back from the thousands of ancestors who bought me to this point and who are willing us to open wide and allow all the love that there is into our hearts.
A brief thank you once again now, to Joanna and all the team, for everything this week – what a difference you are all making! Please could you also pass my particular thanks to Stephan, as I didn’t see him before we left, and I really wanted to let him know how extremely helpful and supportive he was, and how much we appreciated everything he did for us. The children are still buzzing, and talking about next year already!
I wanted to express my deep gratitude to Joanna, Tim, the host families, Play Team and all the amazing staff at Embercombe for the incredible space that you create and hold together. It’s immense and I love that as a family we can experience such richness and depth of being in such a safe and cherished space. We will be back!