Grow The Grown Ups Homecoming

Due to Embercombe’s journey of restructuring and winter regeneration we will not be running a Grow the Grown Ups Homecoming this October.

This is an opportunity to return to Embercombe with your family at this different time of year. We will have many of the same team members to welcome you, plus some new faces, and together we will revisit our daily Listening Partnerships and Special Time whilst enjoying family time in guided activities and some adults only/children only groups too.

This event is just for families who have previously participated in a full Grow the Grown Ups programme at Embercombe. It will be suitable for families with children of all ages.

Grow the Grown Ups Camp

There will be no Grow the Grown Ups camp at Embercombe in 2018 but we hope to see you in 2019.

“Grow the Grown Ups” is a unique week on our beautiful land for adults with young children to participate in a facilitated twin trail programme with their families.

On this programme, parenting is the focus and stimulus for both the outer and the inner trails.

Parenting is an opportunity for effective realistic direct action towards creating the world of our longing.  The challenges, which inevitably come up in the journey of parenthood, point to areas ripe for the parents’ inner growth. We take the perspective that parenting is an honour, a privilege, and at the same time a challenge, and an invitation to grow.

Having dependent children is an intense experience: we’re in relationship 24/7 with someone who needs us, initially for their survival.  Not only that, but as they grow, they need to define themselves and – to some degree – gradually leave us behind.

Aspects of us that have not yet matured, where we are not ready or don’t know how to be responsible, practically or emotionally, will show up in us in the relentlessness of being there for our child, often un-thanked.  We will find ourselves triggered by our children’s immature behaviours, and despite our best efforts to parent consciously we will most likely hear ourselves repeating unhelpful actions and phrases that adults around us used when we were children.

“We are one generation away from Heaven on Earth … We need to raise a new generation of human beings who are not disconnected, who are not traumatised.” Elena Tonetti-Vladimirova, 2013 (Birth Into Being)

“Support for parents must be the cornerstone of any community that wants to preserve and increase human potential” Patty Wipfler, 2016 (Parenting by Connection)

Children are very accurate mirrors.  Even those of us who are not in any kind of parenting crisis can benefit from support to understand how to navigate family life – how to find the balance between everyone’s needs, and how to skillfully grow up our residual immature parts and mature as adults, so that we can parent our children from a wise responsible adult place.  When we are reactive towards our children, there is always something for us to face in ourselves.

This is brave and courageous work and the rewards are rich.

“Grow the Grown Ups” gives parents practical and emotional support to do this brave work.  We take away the daily tasks of shopping, cooking, driving, entertaining, earning, emailing etc for a week so that parents can give themselves, each other and their children some quality attention in a simple, natural environment.

The stone circle

Thanks again for an amazing, insightful few days
Father, with partner and 3 children

Upcoming Dates & Booking

Register interest for 2019

If you have any questions please call +44 (0) 1647 252 983 or email

What to Expect

Each morning simple activities (gardening, crafts, music) are shared, in small family groups, with others. Each afternoon adults come together while children have a great time (with our Creche and Play Teams nearby), to discuss, listen, learn, share and re-focus on what really matters.

We do not tell you how to parent your child: we see this very much as your lifestyle choice.  We draw on the Parenting by Connection model, and introduce and practise 2 of the tools during the week: Special Time and Listening Partnerships. For more information about these, please follow this link

The proverb works both ways: “It takes a village to raise a child.” And “It takes a child to raise a village”

Children who are raised with consciousness and love, who are allowed their feelings and thoughts, who are given helpful loving limits and guidance in how to socialise, are a resource to our communities. They trust their intuition and their hearts as well as their minds.  They expect to love and be loved.  They intuitively know when something is out of integrity.  These children will be ready to step up as our next leaders to steer our world back on track where it has become imbalanced.

When we are able to witness a child’s natural confidence of being, and listen to the unlimited thinking of their mind, when we can open ourselves to share their moments of delight in simple things, and to hear their emotional pain when hearts close, adults can be touched, restored and brought back into alignment with our essential trusting, creative nature.



Programme Director and Lead Facilitator – Joanna Watters

Staff Team Leader  – Tim Hall

Host Leader – Fiona Barnes

Creche Leader – Helen Bourne

Play Team Leader – Stephan Pfaff

Craft Leader – Miriam Rose

Moving Sound Leader – Christoffer de Graal

Parenting by Connection Advisor – Anna Cole

Plus staff and volunteers from Embercombe.

Photo on postcard courtesy of Rachel Mowitz

Joanna Watters

Joanna Watters

Facilitator - Grow the Grown Ups
Tim Hall

Tim Hall

Facilitator and Bee Keeper
Fiona Barnes

Fiona Barnes

Operations and Host Facilitator

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